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Writer's pictureKalina Bains

Aha! Self Discovery Moments?



Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with lacquer mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum, beautifully metaphorizes the process of healing and finding strength in imperfection. Here are several "aha moments" a woman might experience through the lens of Kintsugi, symbolizing her journey of self-discovery and resilience:


  1. Embracing Imperfections: Understanding that her flaws and scars, both physical and emotional, are not signs of weakness but are marks of her unique journey. They contribute to her beauty and strength, making her who she is.

  2. Resilience is Golden: Realizing that the process of healing from her wounds, much like the gold in Kintsugi, adds value and robustness to her character. It teaches her that resilience is not about avoiding the breaks but how she mends them.

  3. Beauty in the Broken: Discovering that there is beauty to be found in her brokenness. Just as a repaired piece of pottery becomes a work of art, her challenges and struggles have the potential to transform her into a masterpiece.

  4. Wholeness Doesn’t Mean Unbroken: Learning that being 'whole' doesn't necessarily mean being 'unbroken'. Wholeness can be achieved by accepting and integrating her broken parts into a cohesive self.

  5. The Power of Vulnerability: Acknowledging that admitting her breaks, and seeking help to mend them, requires strength and courage. Vulnerability is not a weakness but a powerful step towards healing.

  6. Transformation Through Repair: Seeing that, like Kintsugi, the act of repairing herself is not just about fixing what is broken. It's about a transformative process that leads to a new, more complex, and more profound version of herself.

  7. Connections are Stronger at the Broken Places: Finding that relationships can be deepened through shared vulnerabilities. Just as Kintsugi pieces are unique and strong, bonds formed through mutual understanding and acceptance of flaws are unbreakable.

  8. The Journey is Ongoing: Accepting that the process of breaking and healing is a continuous cycle. She learns to appreciate each phase of her journey, understanding that growth and evolution are endless.

  9. Letting Go of Perfection: Realizing that the pursuit of perfection is futile. Instead, she learns to focus on progress and growth, appreciating the beauty of imperfection along the way.

  10. New Beginnings from Old Endings: Discovering that every break can lead to a new beginning. Just as every crack in a piece of pottery opens the path for its Kintsugi transformation, every challenge she faces is an opportunity for renewal and change.

Through these "Ahas", a woman learns to see herself and her journey in a new light, recognizing the beauty in her scars and the strength in her story, much like the art of Kintsugi itself.


Letting go of my fear and understanding I didn't want to be like everyone else or need to be as a young Mennonite, girl was one of my first "AHA" moments. I could think for myself, let go of the religion and still being spiritual loving God, was another. That I deserved to be happy and I wasn't in a sad marriage, I needed to leave and get a divorce for me, was ok. It was time.


Interested in knowing some of my "AHA" moments?

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